Acceptance of our feeling that we don't like is key to getting through them.

"Speaking life" and speaking positive have their place, ...it's SECOND place actually.  The FIRST is Acceptance.  Acceptance is the foundation for change to occur.  We cannot change something that we don't accept is a reality.  We mus first accept a feeling or condition we have.  Denial or running from our feelings only make it worse because our feelings are undone or unfinished.  We must accept and stay in our feelings for a time in order to complete the process.  When we don't it's like we push the pause button.  It will wait for us.  Most -if not all- my clients have unfinished emotional business from years in the past.  In therapy we revisit those painful hard emotions to complete the process.

One man came into my office this week very angry and ready to quit.  Immediately before there was a situation that he gave a "hundred dollar response to a 10 dollar question."  At first he couldn't see his emotional overreaction.  About an hour later he could see it all plainly.  I told him he had 'old anger' and he is never going to complete anything or be successful in his goals because of this anger and fear.  We went back to when he was a kid when he saw his father physically abuse his mother.  He made judgments and made vows (two no-no's we are compassionately warned not to do in God's Word.)  With his eyes closed he connected with the emotion that has always been there and he cried red-faced for most of that hour.

Four times as he play the 'video tape' of the event.  The last time he allowed God to show him what He was doing while that abuse was going on.  He saw the event from four progressive perspective and he was done.  For 25 years he carried this anger and fear that limited him (he said he never had finished anything.)  In one hour of pain he made it through to the other side.

At the end I asked him if his anger had decreased, he said it was gone.  I asked about the fear too, he said the same that it was gone.  I've been checking in with him the last two days and it is still gone and his disposition has changed.  He has walked me to me truck and hugged me goodbye twice now in appreciate for his inner transformation.  He became a new person.

Changing to become a new person is the key!  In one day God gave me this short story called a A Collective Being Named Neo. I wrote it and made this youtube recording all in less than a day (normally I'm pretty slow and methodical.)  Check out the link below and let me know what you think!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uvkgOilyUm8